“Being able t o communica te to her that everything’ s goin g to be okay has nothing t o do with standing up stra ig ht er or taking up mor e room. I t ’ s all about h ow you f eel. I t’ s all about ho w you percei ve your wo rld. If yo u’ re scar ed, unsur e, insecure, and lost, then yo u’ re g oing to comm unicate i t through ever y action you do , regardless o f the tr icks you ’ve lea r ned. If y ou’ re n ot certain about your w orld then she ’ s going to r ead it, and she ’ s not g oing to feel certain. After all, how can y ou give her a sense of certain ty if you don ’ t have i t for yo urself ? H ow can yo u communica te something to her tha t you don ’ t have?”

“Regardless of the words and techniques you use, the way you feel and the way you perceive the world will come through. You may not see it, your mates may not see it, but someone who’s not only biologically programmed but has more than 20 years more experience devoted to learning and understanding communication will definitely see it.”