The next time you want to establish warm rapport with someone, avoid a confrontational seating arrangement and instead sit either next to or at a 90-degree angle from them. These are the positions in which we feel most comfortable. In fact, this is an exercise you can try out with a partner. ♦ Start a conversation sitting next to each other. ♦ After five minutes, change positions so that you’re sitting across from each other. You’ll likely feel a clear difference in comfort level. ♦ After another five minutes, move to a 90-degree angle and feel the difference. ♦ Finally, come back to your original position sitting next to each other. Pay close attention to the rise and fall of feelings of trust and comfort throughout the exercise.