Because people focus primarily on themselves while interacting, they usually won’t notice that you’re mirroring unless you are exceedingly obvious about it. However, here are some ways to increase subtlety: Be selective: do only what feels natural to you. For instance, some gestures are gender-specific. Use variations in amplitude: if they make a big gesture, you could make a smaller one. Use lag time: let a few seconds elapse before you move into a mirrored position