To truly understand how different your face appears when your eyes are relaxed and open, go see the transformation for yourself. ♦ Find a room with a mirror where you won’t be disturbed for a few minutes. ♦ Close your eyes and think of a recent annoyance—some minor issue that’s been bugging you lately, or an unpleasant task such as doing your taxes. ♦ When you feel the irritation take hold, open your eyes and look closely in the mirror. Note the tension around your eyes, their narrowness. ♦ Now close your eyes and think of something that would induce warm feelings—a recent pleasant experience, like time spent with a good friend. ♦ When the warmth has arisen, open your eyes and look at that precise kind of relaxation. That’s what warmth looks like. ♦ Close your eyes once more and think of an exciting time when you felt full of confidence and on top of the world—receiving a triumph, an award, some brilliant news. ♦ When you’ve accessed the feeling of confidence, open your eyes again and note closely what they look like now. That’s what confidence looks like