But there are some people who are dangerous, or who love their power or control so much that a clear verbal boundary is seen as a challenge to be defeated.

If someone has given you reason to fear them, be careful about how you set a boundary with them. Before deciding on what boundaries to set, first assess your own risk. If you, your children, your home, or your possessions would be en- dangered by setting verbal boundaries, create a physical boundary through distance, or by relocating. If you live with or work for a person who could threaten you if you set a boundary, talk to a third person for counsel as to the best course for you to follow. As necessary, use lots of help from other good, trustworthy people to ensure your safety and security.