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When people are dying, what do they regret the most? Coming in at #4 is: “I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.”

Julianne Holt-Lunstad did a meta-analysis of social support and health outcomes and found that not having enough friends or having a weak social circle is the same risk factor as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.

Contrary to the belief that happiness is hard to explain, or that it depends on having great wealth, researchers have identified the core factors in a happy life. The primary components are number of friends, closeness of friends, closeness of family, and relationships with co-workers and neighbors. Together these features explain about 70 percent of personal happiness. – Murray and Peacock 1996

Clicking with people is a lot less about you and a lot more about focusing on them. Don’t be interesting. Be interested. And what are the best ways to do that?

Listen, Seek Similarity, and Celebrate.

The surprising finding is that the closest, most intimate, and most trusting relationships appear to be distinguished not by how the partners respond to each other’s disappointments, losses, and reversals but how they react to good news.

Open up a bit. Don’t go full TMI, but make yourself a little bit vulnerable. Nobody becomes besties by only discussing the weather.

Close friends are what leads to personal discussions. But personal discussions are also what leads to close friends.

Via Click: The Magic of Instant Connections:

Allowing yourself to be vulnerable helps the other person to trust you, precisely because you are putting yourself at emotional, psychological, or physical risk. Other people tend to react by being more open and vulnerable themselves. The fact that both of you are letting down your guard helps to lay the groundwork for a faster, closer personal connection.

Close friends have a good “if-then profile” of each other. Once you have an idea of “if” someone was in situation X, “then” they would display behavior Y, that means you’re really starting to understand them. And this leads to good friendships:

People who had more knowledge of their friend’s if-then profile of triggers had better relationships. They had less conflict with the friend and less frustration with the relationship.

How many close friends do you need? If we go by the science, you want to aim for at least five.

Via Finding Flow: The Psychology of Engagement with Everyday Life:

National surveys find that when someone claims to have five or more friends with whom they can discuss important problems, they are 60 percent more likely to say that they are ‘very happy.’

Daniel Hruschka reviewed studies on the causes of conflict in friendship and found that the most common friendship fights boil down to time commitments. Spending time with someone is a sure indicator that you value him; no one likes to feel undervalued.

You need to keep in touch. (Remember: not keeping in touch is how you got into this problem in the first place.)

If you want to stay close friends with someone, how often do you need to check in? Research says at least every two weeks.

The sociologist Ruut Veenhoven and his team have collected happiness data from ninety-one countries, representing two-thirds of the world’s population. He has concluded that Denmark is home to the happiest people in the world, with Switzerland close behind… Interestingly enough, one of the more detailed points of the research found that 92 percent of the people in Denmark are members of some sort of group, ranging from sports to cultural interests. To avoid loneliness, we must seek active social lives, maintain friendships, and enjoy stable relationships.

And what’s the best way to make sure you’re in a group? Start one. That makes it a lot easier to stay in touch and a lot easier to manage those big 5 friendships with 20% of the effort.

A weekly lunch. A monthly sewing circle. A quarterly movie night. Whatever works. Friends bring friends and suddenly it’s not so hard to meet cool new people. And who does everyone have to thank for this? You.

And make the effort to keep that group solid for everyone. Many studies show older people are happier. What’s one of the reasons? They prune the jerks out of their social circles:

Other studies have discovered that as people age, they seek out situations that will lift their moods — for instance, pruning social circles of friends or acquaintances who might bring them down.

Here’s how to make friends as an adult:

• The new starts with the old: Touch base with old friends and leverage your superconnectors.
• Listen, seek similarity and celebrate: Don’t be interesting. Be interested.
• Be vulnerable: Open up a bit. Form an “if-then” profile.
• Don’t be a stranger: Check in every two weeks, minimum.
• Start a group: Things that are habits get done. So start a group habit.

What does Carlin Flora, author of Friendfluence, say is the number one tip for keeping friendships alive?

Reach out to your good friends and tell them how much they mean to you. It’s just not something we’re accustomed to doing. It’ll make you feel great, it’ll make them feel great and it will strengthen the bond between you. Be more giving to the friends you already have. People in romantic relationships always celebrate anniversaries, yet you might have a friend for 15 years and you’ve probably never gone out to dinner and raised a glass to that. We need to cherish our friendships more.

The new starts with the old: Touch base with old friends and leverage your superconnectors.

Listen, seek similarity and celebrate: Don’t be interesting. Be interested.

Be vulnerable: Open up a bit. Form an “if-then” profile.

Don’t be a stranger: Check in every two weeks, minimum.

Start a group: Things that are habits get done. So start a group habit.